Each year during the holidays, I think of a theme or word that will define my focus for the next year.
For 2014, my theme is “No Excuses”.
As I was reading through an article over the break, the author said any time we make an excuse we are really lying to ourselves.
His comment stayed in my mind and I mentally chewed on his comment while running. How many times had I made excuses to myself and others? The more I analyzed the excuses, I realized they costed me money and wasted my time.
Excuses delay our decisions which create more problems in the long run.
Last year, I read Dr. Cloud’s “Necessary Endings” which was an enlightening book, it also made me think about my actions and excuses.
My goal for the year is to stop and think about the real reason behind the excuse then make a decision to act or not act at all. Many times we make excuses to delay other people or to avoid a confrontation.
There were many excuses surrounding this blog. I felt constrained that I could not freely express my thoughts on a range of topics. I wanted to have a blog where I could mix both my business and personal life together because that how I live.
My career and life are intertwined woven together by interesting threads of events and people. Being a small business owner, writer, and single parent everything I do is intertwined which always leads to a funny story or two.
In November, I started a blog on Google called “Just for Fun” because I made an excuse to myself that I needed a platform, a different place to write about fun topics that were not related to business. Creating another blog to my already packed schedule didn’t make sense either. I realized it was me and my internal excuses preventing me from writing what I wanted to write in this blog post.
My question to you for 2014 is what excuses both internal and external are holding you back or preventing you from doing something you really want to do?
Excuses are traps that keep us from taking action. We feel the need to delay an action or decision so we make an excuse.
Or maybe there was no decision to be made in the first place but we feel pressured from family or friends to make a decision. Maybe family habits or traits are obsolete because life is different now than when we were kids.
Whatever may be the case, excuses gain nothing and in the end are just a waste of time.