This morning when my alarm clock sounded I thought about my clock. It’s old and it was a high school graduation gift from my aunt. The clock has been everywhere and is held together with a rubber band.
While looking at the clock, I thought about how my awareness and view of time had changed.
My mind floated back to two books by Dr. Henry Cloud Necessary Endings and 9 Things You Must Do. I have been reading through the chapters working my next book.
In Necessary Endings, Dr. Cloud talks about “pulling the teeth” on a project that seems good on the surface but after further review it is not.
In fact, the project or service consumes more resources and energy than it is worth.
As I mentally chewed on Dr. Cloud’s advice my mind recalled a related key point mentioned in the book The Road Less Traveled by Dr. Scott Peck. He discussed how we learned during childhood to value ourselves or not. Some parents send indirect messages to their children that they are not as valuable as others. This message can have negative consequences when they become adults.
I believe our self-confidence directly relates to how we spend our time. Three years ago I wrote a blog post about being dyslexic. My self-confidence was not as strong as it should have been and I did not value my time. I was afraid someone would find out.
Once I made the information public via the blog my confidence increased. I pulled the tooth and focused my energy on what I could do instead fixating on my weaknesses. At the time I was unaware that my time management problems were related to how I felt about myself.
Second when we are not passionate about our business we allow time to slip past us.
If I could, I would write all the time. To achieve my goal I shifted my business to being a full-time author-entrepreneur. I care about what I am doing. I am now very selective on how my time is used.
Electing not to give into peer pressure and saying “no” to projects that are not the best use of your time is hard especially when it involves family members. The best approach is work towards a balance.
It is important to schedule a break, without your device or laptop, to think about how you spend your time.
Here are some questions to consider:
- What do you care about? Be honest with yourself. If you do not care about your business, your customers or clients will feel it. Trust me, they will.
- If, what you care about is different from your business, ask yourself why. Be mindful about excuses.
- Is your business based on your passion, interest, and talents?
- Are you spending your time in these areas to build your business, if not, why not?
- Be honest with yourself – does your level of self-confidence determine how you spend your day?
- Are you picking up projects that are in your skill set but unrelated to your business? If so, ask yourself why.
- How often do you make excuses for your decisions and then regret it later?
Understanding ourselves is a critical part of building a sustainable business.
When we value ourselves we can use our time wisely to focus on what matters most – doing our art and building our business.