Twice in 2016, I thought to myself, “Am I going backward? Was I regressing to a place I no longer wanted to be?”
Both times, I was an event participant. Everything felt dated. After several attendees voiced concern, the coordinator stated, “That’s the way it’s always been done, no need to change.” Staring back at the individual, I felt like an alien.
I don’t want to go backward, especially after I’ve spent so much mental energy moving forward. The last thing I wanted to do was to get stuck in another rut.
In all of my experiences, there has never been a time where going backward proved beneficial.
As an impatient movie viewer, films are consumed while working on the computer with the audio playing in the background or during dinner. Last night’s working selection was Whiskey Tango Foxtrot starring Tina Fey as Kim Barker. The movie is based on Barker’s book.
I’ve been thinking about Tina Fey’s character and the reason she became a war correspondent. Each day she faithfully ran on a treadmill. One day, she noticed the constant motion was moving the machine backward across the carpet. In her mind, she was regressing in life instead of gaining.
Again, I am consumed with the question “Am I moving forward or not gaining at all?”
Change surrounds us, yet for many, there is no movement, there is no internal growth, there is only redundancy. The creation of goals reworked year after year. There is comfort in knowing what to expect each and every minute of every day. Being too comfortable can evolve into compliancy distorting reality masquerading as happiness.
2016 was a mixed bag as I was surprised and pleased with the growth of my business while conversely dealing with several sobering realizations. From the new awareness, I gained wisdom enabling me to move forward once again. I am not the same person I was six months. My approach to problems and how I formulate decisions is different. My worldview is constantly evolving.
When you think you are moving backward, stop and ask yourself why you feel this way and what could be the triggers? Often we ignore our inner voice. Look beyond the usual answers and responses, what else is under the surface. Is there a decision or something you are avoiding that needs to be addressed?
If nothing comes to mind, then think of the most outside of the box answer. Anything? If not, let your mind noodle on why for while. When you least expect an answer it will appear.
I believe the only way we can move forward and create a meaningful life is to avoid events and people who cause us to move backward. Our world is full of too many amazing things to be satisfied with how it’s always been done or remaining stuck in a rut refusing to evolve.